I Don’t Ask For Directions!


I recently got on the topic of why men don’t ask for directions, and it spurred a conversation as to why there are so few men who are statistically undiagnosed with mental illness.

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Suicide among males is four times as likely as females. Therefore, men are more successful at accomplishing the task.

So why don’t men ask for directions? It’s an age-old question! Easily summed up as “because men are stubborn!” Not always the case.

Which brings us to why men aren’t diagnosed half as much as woman, simply stated “men don’t want to look weak!”

So the answer leads us into another question.. Why? Why, don’t men seek-out help?

For most of us living with a mental health issues, we don’t see it right away. It’s not like a red flag goes up, and were “oh, duh!” It’s usually something a friend or family member notices.

Once a man is made aware it usually becomes a bit of a denial and acceptance issue.

For men vs. women, its a blow to ones ego. To a woman, we seek help immediately. Therefore statistically more women are diagnosed over men.

Now, this isn’t a knock on men. But rather a wake-up call. It’s just as important for a man to seek help, as it is to find acceptance in the diagnosis.

We all (men and women) suffer the denial and acceptance journey, but unfortunately not enough men come forward, thus the suicide rate for men is that much higher than for women.

There are also, far more services available to women, then men when it comes to mental health.

This can all change if more men came forward, and sought help. Personally, my eldest son is bipolar. He refuses to acknowledge his disorder, therefore he continues to needlessly suffer mania and depression alone.

Yes, this scares me! As I too am bipolar and have had a lot of life experience in this arena. I do not wish him ill, but it’s ultimately his choice!

Many men have this thought process (not saying all) and the hindrance of support begins.

Suicide Rates 2009 - Comparative Figures

I implore you all, man or woman to seek help! There is no need to suffer alone, to just suffer makes no sense.

Culturally men are seen as strong. Therefore mental illness is seen as a weakness. Moving forward-looking for a mate (partner) becomes difficult. For women it’s culturally accepted to be weak (not saying women are weak, just stating statistics).

As a child a sense of weakness usually leads to bullying.

These things need to change for men to feel more comfortable to speak up and get the help they so need.

Now, I’m not saying a man is weak for coming forward with mental illness on the contrary, but commend those who do. It takes a lot of courage (man or woman) to come forth and not only get help, but to accept their diagnosis.

If you have a story you’d like to share, please do so in the comments. If you would like to message me directly, please DM me via twitter.



Living with type 1 bipolar disorder, PTSD (due to childhood trauma), Rapid Cycling, and Seasonal Affective Disorder. Writing about my life experiences.

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