Disowned For Being Bipolar

This is a touchy topic, but often discussed within the community.

Who, how, and when do we tell others of our diagnosis.

For me, it hasn’t been too eventful. Until I told my dad. My friends are supportive, spouse is supportive, even my mom is supportive.
So, I was diagnosed over three-years with Type I Bipolar Disorder. But telling my dad was a strain on me. Why?

Because my dad and I have had a strained relationship since I was a child. He’s always been in-and-out of my life.

But, as I had a positive experience telling my friends and family, I felt now was the time to talk to my dad.

He lives pretty far from me, so I had to impersonalize with a phone call.

I drew-up the courage to dial his number, let the phone ring, and…he answered.

I started out with the usual small talk. Mind you we talk only two-times a year, so catching-up can fill about 20-minutes of time.

After we caught up, I decided it was a good time to fess-up.

I sort of blurted it out, “I’m diagnosed with bipolar disorder!” He said, “what?”

I repeated it again. He asked, “what is that, exactly?”

I went into semantics, and he started to understand. He was surprised. He ask me If was sure. I undoubtedly stated, “yes!”

We talked a bit more, he even surprised me with a show of support (which, in time would dwindle to nothing).

As little as he’s been in my life, I was enjoying his positive interaction.

But, that’s where it ends!

My dad took it amongst himself to share my news to the rest of the family (on my dad’s side).

Most of my family and I are “friends” on most social media.

Within a few weeks of my dad sharing my news, all of a sudden I was “un-friended” or “un-followed” by a few family member’s.

As it turns out…i have the plaque. Well, not for real but that’s how they treated me now.

My own sister has disowned me, not to mention my step-mother, and the list goes on.

There reaction to me having bipolar disorder is NOT how I saw there reactions being!

But, as its stated time-and-time again, “you never really know someone (even family) until you “know” someone!”

I won’t lie and say it doesn’t hurt a bit, but I’m glad its over, and I know who my TRUE family is!

So, I guess the age old question of “when is it a good time to tell someone about your diagnosis,” is to each his own.

I wish I could come up with a more positive response, but its hard after my experience with my dad.

Although, it was only one experience, telling my friends and my mom’s side of the family ventured a more positive outlook!

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Please share how you broke the news of your diagnosis. Was it a positive outcome? How are you coping?

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Living with type 1 bipolar disorder, PTSD (due to childhood trauma), Rapid Cycling, and Seasonal Affective Disorder. Writing about my life experiences.

0 thoughts on “Disowned For Being Bipolar

  • April 23, 2015 at 12:43 pm
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    Sometimes the unknown, or misunderstood, is scary. Try not to take it too personal. It is, after all, their loss!

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  • April 26, 2015 at 4:02 pm
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    It’s when things like this happen that we really find out who our true friends and loved ones are. You don’t want or need small-minded people in your life, let them go and be glad that you can now see their true colours. Although my being Bipolar isn’t a secret, it’s not something I share with everyone. Over the years I’ve lost friends and have been tossed aside by people who don’t understand the illness and are reacting from fear or just plain nastiness. The people I value in my life know and respect me as a person regardless of my mental health. You are beautiful… If they can’t see past your diagnosis then you don’t need them in your life anyway.

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